When Love Ends

Amos Lassen

Adrian has been newly dumped and he is lost. He wonders if he can win back together Hampus, and/or reconcile with the mistakes he made in their relationship. “Are We Lost Forever” is an intimate separation drama that shows  the pain that comes with the ending of a  relationship. “Are We Lost Forever” begins at the home of the young couple Adrian and Hampus, seconds after they are finished. They have barely managed to get out of bed before they face the new reality that they are no longer together.

Hampus moves out and Adrian left with half a bed, a broken heart and many thoughts especially “where did things go wrong?” The film focuses mainly on Adrian (Björn Elgerd) who for a year tries to get back on his feet. He faces empty nights and one night stands, a lack of sleep and a long healing process. We see screaming confrontations, regretful declarations of love and hot make-up sex during which both Adrian and Hampus (Jonathan Andersson) are forced to re-evaluate their relationship in order to move on and become stronger and wiser.

The film is somewhat stiff and static, most of it takes place indoors and with a handful of actors. David Fardmar, the director / screenwriter has turned his limitations to his advantage. Through simple scenes, the action and emotion to take place in the limelight.

We learn little about the two main characters and after an hour and forty minutes with them, we still know very little about them but at the same time we can relate to every single thing they go through. The film is propelled by the story , a story that most of us are able to identify with. The film is an anti-romantic comedy with a touch of humor and embarrassment and the painful feelings that are the rarely noticed that come with love.

Adrian and Hampus who have been together three years but Hampus feels that the time has come for him to leave. For Adrian, the breakup comes as a shock and he cannot accept that the relationship is over. The film takes place over a year as we follow Adrian and Hampus through their  painfully drawn-out separation with everything that comes with it— crying, anxiety, rebound sex, embarrassing encounters, new look-a-like partners, awkwardness, an uncomfortable couples dinner, an insight into breaking old patterns, and perhaps a streak of hope for reconciliation.

While this is classified as a gay film, the conflicts here are not about sexuality. The main conflict is a separation where two broken hearts try to recover and hopefully heal after a heartbreaking year— two ordinary people facing the end of love.

When Adrian and Hampus get to the point of changing their statuses on Facebook to “single”, they both  realize that they have gone past the point of no return. Over the following year, neither of the men can move on without each other, at first.  When the two finally meet new partners they look like each other, and it makes for a very awkward dinner when the four  get together. What goes on in the story is completely relatable and with that and the excellent performances and use of emotions make this an endearing look at love.

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