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Oy Vey! “Oy Vey in a Manger” is touring 10 cities this December! As a subscriber to The Kinsey Sicks list, you’ve waived your right to claim good taste – so you’ve no excuse to miss the gals in…

NEW HOPE, PA (Thursday-Saturday, Dec 4-6)
An entire month of “Oy Vey in a Manger” kicks off with a return to The Rrazz Room.

NEW YORK CITY (Dec 7, 9, 10)
3 nights of “Oy Vey” (Sun, Tues, and Wed) at The Metropolitan Room, one of the most critically acclaimed venues in the Big Apple, Voted #1 Jazz Cabaret Club by New York Magazine.

SANTA CRUZ, CA (Thursday, Dec 11)
“Oy Vey in a Manger” crosses the country to play at the Rio Theater with a performance that benefits Chadeish Yameinu.

WINTHROP, WA (Friday, Dec 12)
Okay, we’re not doing “Oy Vey”! It’s our one December performance of “America’s Next Bachelor Housewife Celebrity Hoarder Makeover Star Gone Wild!” at Methow Arts.

SAN FRANCISCO (Saturday, Dec 13)
Last chance before we flip the early bird special! PRICES GO UP THIS FRIDAY AT MIDNIGHT! ALSO, note that VIP TICKETS WILL SOON SELL OUT! Don’t wait til the last minute to buy your tickets. Last year we sold out the 1400 seat Castro Theater and people got turned away. (We know, we don’t get it either.)

ROHNERT PARK, CA (Sunday, Dec 14)
The girls return to the Person Theater with a performance that benefits Congregation Ner Shalom.

CEDAR RAPIDS, IA (Friday, Dec 19)
“Oy Vey in a Manger” continues its onlaught across America with a return to one of the girls’ favorite stops in Iowa, Legion Arts!

CHICAGO (Saturday, Dec 20)
The girls return to their favorite Chicago hotspot with two helpings of “Oy Vey”: 7pm and 9:30pm.

KANSAS CITY (Sunday, Dec 21)
“Oy Vey in a Manger” returns to the fabulous Folly Theatre (in Trampolina’s hometown!).

PUERTO VALLARTA, MEXICO (Dec 23, 24, 26, 27, 28, 30, Jan 1, 2)
At last, The Kinsey Sicks are reunited with The Palm, as they finish off their run of “Oy Vey in a Manger” with 2 weeks of shows! Order early for VIP seats!

BUCERIAS, MEXICO (Thursday, Dec 25)
The girls give a special Christmas performance of “Oy Vey” at the gorgeous Luna Lounge.

Because you didn’t get us a gig. Yes, that’s right, it’s your fault! If you want us to come to your town, then find some schmuck there who’s crazy enough to book us! It’s not like we don’t want to come to [YOUR HOMETOWN.] In fact, [YOUR HOMETOWN] is one of our favorite places!

Contact us at to inquire about bookings. We have many available openings next year. (Also, we have several available performance dates.)

Get all your holiday shopping done now with tix for the Sicks – then sit back to see what equally thoughtless gifts people dump on you!

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“33 TEETH”— A Short Film by Evan Roberts

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“33 Teeth” 

A Short Film by Evan Roberts

Amos Lassen

Eddie (Spencer Siegel) is a hormonal 14-year-old boy living alone with his mother in the suburbs. He is fascinated with the comb of his attractive older neighbour, Chad (James Ratliff). This is the story of adolescent yearnings. This is also a look at a gay teen’s blossoming sexuality as he falls in lust with his older neighbor and he becomes very excited when he spies Chad measuring himself in the bathroom.  Chad is very good looking and he provides quite the surprise for Eddie at the end of the film.


“Nicely shot and staged, works of this nature showcase the beauty of the short film medium, both as a filmmaking learning curve and here cue the ever present limited budget / shooting time and fading light stress that go hand-in-hand with the industry, pressures that are rewarded with the pure joy of a self-contained story. Little else remains to be said, other than and as ever, see what you think”.

“Queer Theory, Gender Theory” by Riki Wilchins—An Introduction

queer theory

Wilchins, Riki. “Queer Theory, Gender Theory”, Riverdale Avenue Books, 2014.

An Introduction

Amos Lassen

Here is a wonderful and clear introduction to postmodern theory and its impact on queer and gender studies. Riki Wilchins is a noted gender activist and uses straightforward language and examples from both LGBT and feminist politics and her own life experiences to takes us through the new ideas that are prevalent today and changed the way that we understand who we are, our bodies, sex and desire.

This is an introduction to queer/gender/postmodern theory that is situated within contexts of social and political movements. It is extremely accessible, and readers are guided through difficult concepts that are often complicated and dense in their original works (e.g., Foucault, Derrida, Butler). For those who want to sample some of the central theoretical concepts related to gender and sexuality, this is a great resource.

Author Wilchins seeks to take theory out of its current limited circulation among “academics and graduate students” and add the political and make it easily accessible for activists. It opens with brief histories of the civil rights movements and then moves onto discussions of Jacques Derrida and Michel Foucault. It then gives contemporary examples of uses of postmodern theory and moves on to look at the weaknesses of postmodern theory

Especially the lack of “any vision of constructive social engagement and political action” and its tendency not to account for the varying perspectives that might be met because of dimensions of difference, specifically race. There is also focus on limitations and weaknesses. Wilchins looks to the work of Judith Butler and the assertion that identity-based politics, while in some ways facilitate political organizing and movement, inevitably and undesirably create margins and practice exclusion. The last chapter is about the founding of GenderPAC’s and continued development and growth. This is an s an example of theory being put into action.

 Wilchins bridges queer theory and human rights activism and thereby instills in academics the necessity of putting theory into action, and to offer those unfamiliar with queer theory access to the possibilities that this kind of theorizing has opened up. However, those who do not care for Wilchins’ promotion of GenderPAC (and she does this in everything that she writes) will also find that with this book.

“Not My Father’s Son: A Memoir “ by Alan Cumming— Family Secrets

not my father's son

Cumming, Alan. “Not My Father’s Son: A Memoir “,Dey Street Books, 2014.

Family Secrets

Amos Lassen

Alan Cumming, the star of stage and screen, shares with us the very emotional story of his relationship with his father and the secrets that made him the man he has become. Cumming’s success came after a painful childhood that was dominated by a father who was emotionally physically abusive and the torment that he felt tortured him even as an adult.

In 2010, Cumming was asked to participate in a popular British genealogy show and he hoped that the show would solve a family mystery about his maternal grandfather, a celebrated WWII hero who had disappeared in the Far East. However, Alan learned far more than he bargained for about himself, his past, and his own father when the truth of his family ancestors was revealed.

In this new memoir Cumming writes with wit and humor as he tells us stories from his youth as well as some of the experiences he has had lately. His book is beautifully written and he captures the reader on the first page. While exploring memories and the truth can sometime be quite painful, Cumming chose to laugh as to not feel the pain as he relates his stories. Alex Cummings, Alan’s father, “held his family hostage”, was violent and was at war with himself.

The first mystery uncovered had to deal with what happened to Cumming’s maternal grandfather and it was learned that when his mother was just thirteen years old, the family was notified that he had died by his own hand, an accidental shooting. Then there was the story about Cumming’s father whom Alan had not seen or spoken to for more than a decade but who reconnected just before filming for Who Do You Think You Are? began. He had a secret that he felt he had to share, one that would shock his son to and would cause the actor’s life to be changed forever.
The book is almost contradictory in that it is and sad and wonderful at the same time. We read of childhood violence alongside of celebrity tales. And then we see what Cumming does not; that he is his father’s son but on an opposite plane. He writes about his father and tells us that were happy times but he was too upset to enjoy then. Each little story that we get shows us another aspect of Cumming and we piece them together to get a complete portrait. As for his father’s violence, Cumming outgrows it as we read.

Cumming was born in Angus, Scotland where he lived with his parents and brother. His memoir moves back and forth between 1965 and his school years to 2010 in alternating chapters. He was terrified of his father’s outbreaks of violence and abuse, Alan and his brother, Thom, walked and talked as silently as they could. Any little matter could cause pain and injury. Their mother was mostly silent and compliant and we never know if she was beaten into silence or why she never came to their rescue. Until Cumming was 17 and old enough to go to college his life was filled with violence, abuse and dislike.

 As he began to trace his last years, he faced his own demons, and, in particular, his father. This is Alan Cumming’s story to find the truth of his grandfather, his father and himself. His story could have been written by Charles Dickens and it makes us very angry but it also makes us smile. Cumming really got an unexpected taste of the revelations to come. His brother told him that their estranged father of 16 years had gotten in touch to say that Alan was not, in fact, his son. Naturally there was an aura of disbelief but it came with a feeling of relief as well. Cumming thought that maybe this offered some sort of explanation as to why his father had seemingly hated him so thoroughly. The fact that Cumming had no relationship with his father was no secret. In 1999 and their past had been in the spotlight. But if what his father said was true this would be hugely embarrassing for his mother, Mary Darling. Cumming decided to privately deal with one family mystery –by taking a paternity test–while publicly exploring another. The journey through his family’s past is full of unexpected twists and discoveries. Cumming goes from the United Kingdom, to France, Malaysia and Singapore and the experience was emotionally taxing. He realized that, regardless of the result of the paternity test, he had lost a father but he had also found a grandfather. By piecing together documents, by speaking with people who knew and served with Tommy Darling in the various corners of the earth, he got to know the man who died so long before his birth, yet whose life was so similar to his own. Cumming writes with honestly about his depression, therapy and present-day fears and dispositions, and uses vivid and often brutal tales from his past to explain their roots.

He found remarkable parallels between his life and that of his grandfather are revealed to the reader as shockingly as they were to the author himself. By sharing his history so honestly, we experience the profundity of Cumming’s journey. In sharing his traumatic experiences, he invites us to appreciate what he went through. Within just a few months, he not only learned that there were secrets within his family’s history but he also had to deal with the painful truths. Even with the suffering, he tells us that he is gratefulness for the experience and says that it was worth it all.



New in November from Bruno Gmunder

New in November

Michael Stokes
Michael Stokes is one of the most successful newcomers in recent years. His first book, Masculinity, was an overwhelming success, and his fan page on Facebook has over 140,000 followers. Now comes Bare Strength, the hotly anticipated second volume of this master photographer.


128 pages, full color
Hardcover with dust jacket, 10 ¼ x 13 ½“ (26,0 x 34,0 cm)
€ 59,99 / US$ 89.99 / £ 59.99
ISBN 978-3-86787-768-8

Michael Andrew
St. Petersburg is a city of inexpressible beauty. In Boys of St. Petersburg, photographer Michael Andrews shares this with us. His photography is of soulful precision and breathtaking virtuosity. During his several months’ long winter travels to St. Petersburg , Michael Andrew succeeded in capturing the innocent beauty and grace of the models. The result is a photographical masterpiece, a tribute to the Boys of St. Petersburg.


128 pages, full color, explicit
Hardcover with dust dust jacket, 10 ¼ x 13 ½“ (26,0 x 34,0 cm)
€ 49,99 / US$ 75.99 / £ 49.99
ISBN 978-3-86787-764-0

Following the huge success of Big is Better, exceptional talent Song releases a second volume in English. He was the comic discovery of the year 2013. His characters Sam, the tender muscle giant, and Pete, the well-endowed boy, are banished from the gay community and the world at large. They find love with one another because of their differences and go through some adventures. Genetically altered males, crazy scientists, terrorists — what is waiting ahead for them?


160 pages, full color, explicit
Softcover with flaps, 7 x 9 ½“ (17, 5 x 24 ,5 cm)
€ 19,99 / US$ 24.99 / C$ 27.99 / £ 19.99
ISBN 978-3-86787-769-5

Takeshi Matsu
Gay manga at its best: Takeshi Matsu’s humorous and highly erotic stories enjoy popularity in Japan andworldwide. Bruno Gmünder publishes his works for the first time in English, making it available to a larger audience.


160 pages, black-white
Softcover with flaps, 6 ¾ x 9 ½” (17,0 x 23,8 cm)
€ 19,99 / US$ 24.99 / C$ 27.99 / £ 19.99
ISBN 978-3-86787-793-0

Kit Christopher
Kinky Gay Sex is an introduction to everything for the fearless gay man, a guidebook to all the newest and most exciting practices for those who like it kinky! From spanking, group sex, and dirty talk to a complete inventory of the best sex toys, this book brings together all the information you need to open up whole new erotic horizons—by yourself, with a partner, or with several! Beyond shame and without inhibition, it will help you achieve your goal of getting the utmost out of life’s most exciting activity.


256 pages
Hardcover, 6 ¾ x 9 ½“ (17, 6 x 24 ,6 cm)
€ 29,99 / US$ 39.99 / C$ 44.99 / £ 29.99
ISBN 978-3-86787-699-5

Casey K. Cox
Alec Caldwell is a successful investment manager, but behind closed office doors he’s also a sex toy for his wealthy clients. As a new member of the exclusive Order of Gentleman, he finds himself immersed in a secret underworld of the rich and powerful. Doors to new worlds open before him and Alec’s experience grows along with the importance of the men he services. But his newfound status puts the blossoming relationship with his boss and master, Rick Hamilton, under pressure. Alec is a hot commodity and temptation abounds. He finds himself questioning, not only the direction of his life and vocation, but the value of those he truly holds dear.


192 pages
Softcover,5 ¼ x 7 ½” (13,0 x 19,0 cm)
€ 14,99 / US$ 16.99 / C$ 18.99 / £ 10.99
ISBN 978-3-86787-789-3


“The Andy Cohen Diaries: A Deep Look at a Shallow Year” by Andy Cohen— Pop Icon Andy Cohen

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Cohen, Andy. “The Andy Cohen Diaries: A Deep Look at a Shallow Year”, Henry Holt and Co., 2014.

Pop Icon Andy Cohen

Amos Lassen

While this book is not yet out, I just want to tell you a bit about it especially because Cohen will be speaking about his new book on December 7 at the Greater Boston Jewish Community Center and it is already sold out.

In case you do not know, Andy Cohen is the host and executive producer of Watch What Happens Live, Bravo’s late night, interactive talk show. He also serves as executive producer of The Real Housewives franchise and hosts the network’s highly rated reunion specials. He’s won an Emmy and two Peabody Awards for his work, and he lives in New York City with his dog, Wacha.

His book is about a year in the whirlwind life of the beloved pop icon Andy Cohen, in his own cheeky, candid, and irreverent words. If you have followed my reviews you know that I was not very kind to him on his previous book and he has certainly made up for that with this, his diary. Cohen has a front row seat to an exciting world that not many of us get to see. He is an out and proud gay man who gives us his dishy, detailed diary of one year in his life. We go out on the town with hi and he drops names, “hosts a ton of shows, becomes codependent with Real Housewives, makes trouble, calls his mom, drops some more names, and, while searching for love, finds it with a dog. We learn everything from which celebrity peed in her WWHL dressing room to which Housewives are causing trouble and how”. For Andy Cohen nothing and no one are off limits. We are with him at home and with close friends and family and we meet his beloved and unforgettable mom. Cohen not only shares with us what goes down, but he adds exactly what he thinks about it. His inspiration is another Andy, Andy Warhol and he is honest, irreverent, and laugh-out-loud as we read about the “whos” and “whats” of pop culture in the 21st century. Here is what others have said about the book:

“After reading this funny, intimate, candid, honest diary of a year in Andy’s life, I couldn’t help but wonder, “Is Andy Cohen…Carrie Bradshaw?”—Sarah Jessica Parker

“The funniest thing I’ve done all year is read Andy Cohen’s Diaries. He has more genuinely funny and surprising encounters with celebrities and sublebrities in a day than I do all year.  Then my name popped up. Now I just want to sue him.” —Anderson Cooper

 “I am not, nor have I ever been, engaged to Andy Cohen. But his book is really funny.” —Sean Avery

 “Andy Cohen keeps the oddest hours of anyone in the building. he comes, he goes, he comes back (in the middle of the night.) Now, I finally found out where he’s going. If you ask me, nobody should be allowed to have this much fun.” —Surfin Percy, Andy’s Doorman

“Andy Cohen’s diaries are the literary equivalent of a Fresca and tequila.”—Jimmy Fallon

“THE SECRET PATH”— Love on the Run

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“The Secret Path”

Love on the Run

Amos Lassen

It is the year 1810 and Frank and Theo are in love and on the run from the British Navy. There is a war going on and they have escaped from “The Rose”, the ship where they met and planned to live the rest of their lives together. They find a large abandoned house in the English countryside and hide out but this may be even more dangerous than life in the Navy. Theo sees a dark and sinister figure watching them on the grounds it haunts his dreams. In gay themed film we do not often get period dramas and here director/writer Richard Mansfield brings us just that—a film is set completely in a forest with just four characters and of those, two are on the screen for almost the entire film.

Frank (Darren Bransford) and Theo (Henry Regan) are on the run from the press gangs and hiding in the woods near a large country house. Their plan is to get by on crime, perhaps as either highwaymen or grave robbers. The two men are deeply in love and can be openly so now since they are far from the disapproval of society. However when Theo starts to see a strange figure lurking in the trees, as well as dreaming about a man he once knew called Thomas (Miguel Campbell-Lewis) who warns him about the devil, they feel the need to get away the evil place they’re in.


Frank does not see the same thing and he doesn’t feel anything is wrong but the fear in Theo continues to grow as he sees more and more signs that something evil will happen. He does not know if he is really seeing something or just losing his mind.

We really do not see much of what they do together aside from walking around or just cuddling on the grass. Their make-out sessions are clumsy but that could be because they are not used to the freedom to express themselves that they now have and they do not have the rhythm that traveling on the seas provides. We do sense that there is something spooky about the place but only Theo sees dead people and from this we sense that things will not end well for the two men.

As if a small budget were not enough, making a costume drama can be risky. The atmosphere is set by the use of a hand-held camera and a soundtrack that plays eerie music. The two leads do a good job with their roles but it seems that the script needed some more development. This is not what I would call a straightforward film and much of it is strange and a bit creepy. The beauty of the film is in the relationship between the two men. The actors are completely transform into the characters they play and we certainly feel that they are deeply in love with each other. This may seem to contradict what I said earlier but when you see the film you will understand why I say this.

This is an ambitious film that has plenty of talent in it but I really believe it would have been so much better if had just focused on Theo and Frank instead of venturing into the supernatural (if that is what it is).

“Best-Kept Boy in the World: The Short, Scandalous of Denny Fouts, Muse to Truman Capote, Gore Vidal, and Christopher Isherwood” by Arthur Vanderbilt— A Male Prostitute

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Vanderbilt, Arthur. “Best-Kept Boy in the World: The Short, Scandalous of Denny Fouts, Muse to Truman Capote, Gore Vidal, and Christopher Isherwood”, Magnus Books, 2014.

A Male Prostitute

Amos Lassen

I have already written about this book several times and I am glad to see it will finally be published at the end of October, 2014.

Danny Fouts lived only from 1914-1948 but he had quite a life. He was the twentieth century’s most famous male prostitute and a socialite and muse to several writers. Born to a middle-class family in Jacksonville, Florida but it did not take him long to become friendly with and bed some of the rich and celebrated. We might even say that he conquered the world. Truman Capote, devoted a third of “Answered Prayers” to Denny’s life story said that “to watch him walk into a room was an experience. He was not just was good-looking; he was the single most charming-looking person I’ve ever seen.”

Christopher Isherwood was direct and he called Denny “the most expensive male prostitute in the world.” He was the inspiration for the character Paul in Isherwood’s novel “Down There on a Visit” and appears as himself frequently in Isherwood’s published diaries.

This book follows Denny to his “rarefied world of barons and shipping tycoons, lords, princes, heirs of great fortunes, artists, and authors”. He was an American original and his story has “an amazing cast of unforgettable characters and extraordinary settings, the book Gore Vidal wished Denny had written”.


“3 IN A BED”— Coming Soon to DVD

3 in a bed

“3 in a Bed”

Coming Soon to DVD

Amos Lassen

A new romantic comedy is on its way to DVD. It follows the life of Nate, a struggling musician Nate. Set in Manchester Nate longs to be independent but his two sisters come to visit and his life changes forever. This really upsets Nate who is so happy that he and his new neighbor Jonny are getting along so well. He is, however, worried that living with his two sisters will have an effect on his relationship with his new beau. We see Nate as a young man fighting to hide his sexuality from the two sisters he raised. The film is about love in many different ways as well as self-acceptance.

Nate (Brennan Reece) raised his two sisters following the death of their mother and now he finally gets a flat of his own. However, due to a variety of circumstances his siblings (Verity-May Henry and Coby Hamilton) come knocking and all three find themselves sharing not only the apartment but also a double bed.

This dysfunctional family situation is combined with the love story of the two men and as Nate struggles to maintain that love affair with Jonny (Darren Bransford) while hiding it from his sisters who have no idea that he is gay. 

“How I Stopped Being a Jew” by Shlomo Sand— What Jewish Means

how i stopped being a jewSand, Shlomo. “How I Stopped Being a Jew”, 
Verso, 2014.

What Jewish Means

Amos Lassen

Shlomo Sand was born in a displaced persons camp in Austria in 1946. His mother was Jewish but his father was not (which made him a Jew since the religion goes from mother to child). His family eventually migrated to what was then known as Palestine and Sand, as a young man, questioned his Jewish identity even as a secular Jew. Now he shares with us from his own thoughts and essays his personal feelings at the problems of a modern Jewish identity.

Sand discusses the negative effects of the Israeli exploitation of the “chosen people” myth and its ‘holocaust industry.’” He criticizes the fact that, in the current context, what “Jewish” means is, above all, not being Arab and gives us his thoughts about the possibility of a secular, non-exclusive Israeli identity, beyond the legends of Zionism. He grew up among Jews and tried to understand the social integrity of Israel as a state. Israel, “a Jewish state” is also made up of non-Jewish religions, but those who follow these religions do not enjoy the benefits of being Israeli citizens.

Sand also writes about the over exploitation of history for the good of religion. The number of deaths during the Holocaust, he writes, is not limited to Jews (six million) but that were also as many as five million other deaths of people of other religions. History does not always mention this and the benefits (German reparations), Sand claims, are collected only by Jews. As a result of this and other issues, Sand demands to be “stripped of the (his) Jewish identity”.

This just might be the weirdest book I have ever read. Sand seems to think that regarding Israel there was some kind of conspiracy theory. He claims that Israeli historians have suppressed the Khazar theory that says that the Ashkenazi community came from ancestors who were medieval Slavic converts and that the theory maintains there is no history of Zionism but rather an anti-history. Therefore there is no such thing as the Jewish people. However he cites no evidence for this.

He goes even further by rejecting his Jewish religion because it is a “genocidal Yahwestic tradition.” He cannot identify with secular Jews, since they have no common culture — no shared language, customs or literature. He says that the great modern Jewish writers such as Saul Bellow and Philip Roth did not look at and/or explore Jewish themes in their writings and instead wrote of and with an “Eastern European sensibility.” Jewish humor therefore becomes “Yiddish-Slavic humor since it was never shared and Jews “… do not experience today joys or pains shared by other secular Jews the world over.” Therefore he announces that he wishes to resign from the Jewish religion and no longer think of himself as a Jew.

He has no awareness that Judaism can be looked at and defined by “the tensions between universalism and tribalism” and that there is not and never was a Jewish culture. and schlemiels.

There is really nothing original here—all we get is a union of memoir, unfounded history and ideas about Jewish identity that he has taken from others. He seems to be trying to prove that being Jewish is an onus and a terrible thing. He appears to hate other Jews (those aside from himself) and he regards himself very highly.

Sand does ask an important question here by saying that there is a closeness between an essentialist Jewish identity and how Israel treats its non-Jews. No doubt there are those who claim Israel is a haven for Muslims and everything is great in Gaza. However, those who seek intellectual honesty have to admit that there is a contradiction “between Western ideals and an ethno-religious government that humiliates and brutalizes people under its jurisdiction”. American Jews must decide why they support a situation in Israel that they would never allow happen here.