“Still Straight: Sexual Flexibility Among White Men in Rural America” by Tony Silva— Straight Men who Have Sex with Other Man

Silva, Tony.  “Still Straight: Sexual Flexibility Among White Men in Rural America”, NYU Press, 2021.

Straight Men Who Have Sex with Other Men

Amos Lassen

Tony Silva in “Still Straight: Sexual Flexibility Among White Men in Rural America” looks at why some straight men in rural America have sex with other men. He argues that these men-many of whom enjoy hunting, fishing, and shooting guns-are not gay, bisexual, or “just experimenting.” They can enjoy a range of relationships with other men, from hookups to sexual friendships to secretive loving partnerships, while still strongly identifying with straight culture. 

Through interviews with straight white men who live in rural America, Silva examines the unexpected disconnect between sexual behavior and identity. Some use sex with men to bond with other men in an acceptably masculine way; some are not particularly attracted to men, but are leery of emotional attachment with women and others see sex with men-as opposed to women-as a more acceptable form of extramarital sexual behavior. We see that. heterosexuality in rural America is not always what it seems.

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