“This One Looks Like a Boy: My Gender Journey to Life as a Man” by Lorimer Shenher— A Memoir of Coming of Age and Gender Transition

Shenher, Lorimer. “This One Looks Like a Boy: My Gender Journey to Life as a Man”, Greystone, 2019.

A Memoir of Coming of Age and Gender Transition

Amos Lassen

In this memoir, Lorimer Shenher tells us that it is never too late to become the person you are meant to be; to find your true identity. Since he was a small child, Shenher knew something for certain: he was a boy but he was growing up in a girl’s body. He shares the story of his gender journey, from childhood gender dysphoria to teenage sexual experimentation to early-adult denial of his identity and finally the acceptance that he is trans and undergoes gender reassignment surgery when he in his fifties. Along the way, he details his childhood in Calgary, his struggles with alcohol, and his eventual move to Vancouver, where he became the first detective assigned to the case of serial killer Robert Pickton (the subject of his critically acclaimed book “That Lonely Section of Hell”). “This One Looks Like A Boy” takes us through one of the most important decisions Shenher will ever make, as he comes into his own and finally discovers acceptance and relief.

We see how his gender transition is the transition of a lifetime and indeed of a life. He shares his life with us—his education and growing up, friends and lovers, vocations and avocations, the family that raised him and the one he’s raising himself. This is Shenher’s celebration of how one aspect of his identity touches every other and leads to the long, studied, complex, evolving, often painful journey that we get to share.

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