Dealing with Death
While we are alive, we tend to forget that death is a fact of life. When a young person dies, it is difficult to deal with and if it is someone we live, it is that harder to understand. This is what we face in this brilliant new film by Isidore Bethel. Not long after, Bethel graduated from Harvard, he went to France to study film and it was there that he got word that his best friend from childhood, Liam had been killed by a drunk driver. He was just 23 years old.
Bethel decided to make a documentary film about Liam in the hopes that this would help him through the grieving process. Bethe; had never come out to his folks and did so as he began to work on the film and his parents were totally accepting. Liam’s parents are important to the film because it is basically through them that Bethel explores his own feelings about their loss of a son and his loss of a friend. Bethel’s own parents also play a huge part in accepting the tragedy. All of the characters now must see their futures dramatically changed by Liam’s death and this also includes Liam’s ex-girlfriend who had remained relatively close even though the pair had split up long before Liam’s death.
It was the loss of Liam that was responsible for Bethel’s examination his own feelings in a very public way which would have been out of character for him before this. He intimately involves his French boyfriend in this self-examination, and learn that their very public declarations of love to each other, was not enough.
This is a very personal movie and at times I felt like I was being intrusive as I watched. Yet, this is a moving look at feelings and I applaud the director for this chance to know him. I have a feeling that we will be hearing a great deal more from him in the future.
“Liam” had its world premier at this tears Wicked Queer, The Boston LGBT Film Festival.