“PATHS”— A Relationship


A Relationship

Amos Lassen

Furniture designer and single father Andreas falls for Martin, and as the years go by, we watch the ebb and flow of their lives together. Even though they are both deeply in love with each other, their relationship is falling apart at the seams as their son Max grows into manhood. This is a film about the discrete, everyday intimacies that couples create together over time.

Max calls each of his two fathers “Dad” and his two dads have been together for 13 years. the two are together. They have sworn to each other to be together forever but even with their love, they have grown apart. Andreas and Martin now live side by side. One likes to be at home in peace, the other prefers do something actively. One works too much, one does not find a job, both have money. There is a lack of communication and constant compromises have mellowed the two men. Through several flashbacks, director Chris Miera shows the happy moments, the common everyday life, the missing of the other and also the misgivings. Only with sex is he amazingly chaste. The most touching chapter of their lives is in the pain of separation and the bond of memories and feelings that Andreas and Martin share.

Something seems to have been lost over the years and two men who love each other are on their way to the painful separation. Thirteen years earlier they vacationed on the Baltic Sea where they met and began their lives together. Max was then six-years-old. Nine years later there was a crisis. Andreas’s workshop was not doing so well and Martin, gets a great opportunity to take over the store at the nursery where he works. Stress begins to take over their relationship and each man goes his own way dealing with it. Max finds himself in the middle.

This is the story of normal people in a normal situation and in a very normal relationship. There are no conflicts from outside. Director Miera concentrates more on the inwardness, on the connectedness of the two lovers. The story of Andreas and Martin is told over the years of their togetherness and we see selected key sequences of their relationship. They separate yet talk with each other by Skype every evening but they do not have much to say. When Martin returns home, there is joy but Max has grown up and goes on a world trip. With both men on their own, alienation has begun and a return trip, a holiday on the Baltic Sea can not change anything.

Here is the tragedy of this couple’s life and the decision that they make brings separation. While the separation is physical, Andreas and Martin remain united by memory and herein is the irony that love does not always keep two people together.