Tackes, Rob. “Toss of the Coin: Choosing My Gay Destiny”, Querelle Press, 2017.
A Journey Through Life
Rob Tackes takes us on his journey through life from the time and he was young and shy to becoming an “audacious” risk taker. He was raised in blue collar Chicago, had many adventures and ended up in San Francisco when in the late twentieth century it was one of the most dynamic cities for gay men. He meets Denis and they spend 60 years together and then on an urge and a prayer, he says yes to a proposal that sends him into the world of real estate. However, that did not last and then Rob is diagnosed with HIV causing him to examine himself and he way he was living. Almost immediately, he begins to work on his health and rebuilds his self-confidence.
Like any memoir, this is not just the story of a life but also a look at a period in time. It was in the 40s and 50s that his shy years took place and then he met Denis and they were off to San Francisco in 1970 at the beginning of the gay liberation revolution. Their lives were peppered with real estate, marijuana and sex and then HIV. Yet Rob kept on and he is a long-term survivor. He and Denis have moved to Palm Springs and they recently celebrated fifty-eight years together. Today his life is slow but it has been very full.