Corwin, Dr. Glenda. “Sexual Intimacy for Women: A Guide for Same-Sex Couples”. Seal Press, 2012.
Achieving and Keeping an Intimate Relationship
Here we go again—a gay male reviewing a book about lesbian sex. Isn’t that akin to straight women writing gay erotica? I suppose it is but I am stating from the get go that I know nothing about lesbian sex but I do know books and good writing and I am going to review this book in light f what I know.
I am sure that this is a book that many have waited for and form what I can tell it was certainly worth the wait. Dr. Glenda Corwin, the author, is a clinical psychologist who specializes in issues of sexual intimacy for women in same-sex relationships and therefore she is the person to write the book. This is a book meant to help female couples and does so by looking at the emotional, physical and psychological aspects of their relationships. The book shows us how more intimacy can be garnered. The book provides a series of exercises as well as anecdotes from the writer’s own clients. Te overall goal of intimacy is then broken down into achieving better orgasms, body images, senses of identity and shows the reader how to react to aging and parenthood. The book also has a look at the myths that have come down through the years as well as to the components and intricacies of desire.
Written in an easy and forthright manner, this could become the most important book in one’s personal library but it is more than just a self-help book and if adhered to it can change the quality of life and love.
Here is a look at the table of contents and you can get an idea of the topics covered:
Introduction–Just the facts: women, sex, and desire
1 Women and Sex: Separating Fact from Fiction
2 Spontaneous vs. Responsive Desire– common stumbling blocks to intimacy
3 The Dynamics of Desire Discrepancy
4 Body Image & the Tyranny of Weight
5 Sexual Abuse & Trauma
6 Aging & Hormones
7 Fidelity Issues
8 The Pressures of Parenthood –secrets to long-lasting intimacy
9 Communication for Lovers
10 The Secret of 24-Hour Foreplay
11 Igniting Your Erotic Imagination
12 Orgasm: Taking Your Time
About the Author
Sexual intimacy is one of the problems that many couples encounter when a relationship becomes long term and sometimes it is difficult to have a sexual appetite as the years pass. Here the common issues are looked at and the author gives advice to help women deal with everything from getting older to cheating to becoming parents. The chapter divisions reflect the obstacles that are faced. Dr. Corwin says that the key to long term sexual intimacy is “intention” and that “when women expect passion to ignite spontaneously, they find themselves waiting longer and longer between lovemaking”.